Goodbye My Sweet Prince and Princesses

The Guy In The Middle, The Family Genius, and Smiley Face have left the castle. As I write this post, they are in the middle of the Pacific Ocean on their way to Tokyo and will continue to Manila. They will spend 2 months in the Philippines marinating in Filipino culture, if not the heat, and spending quality time with their cousins. But most importantly, they will be getting away from the house chores and Daddy’s eternal nagging.

My children are growing up faster than I can blink my eyes. Two are already technically adults, one is almost 16 and the two youngest are sprouting like Jack’s beanstalk. While it is definitely exciting to see them come into their own, I cannot help but be sad with the inevitability that eventually they will all leave us.

The Prodigal Son’s penchant for travel adventures is occurring more frequently. The other 3 look forward to their yearly vacation and the youngest well, he’d rather be outside all day than hangout with his old man. With their desire to go out and travel, the trips to the airport have been happening more frequently.

Of course this is what Babe and I want. We want them to travel and explore. We want them to see the world and learn from it. We want them to understand that life happens outside our home, outside our city, and outside our country. We want them to see and compare their lives to the lives of the poeple that they meet in their travels. We want them to realize that while we all have different belief and values, within our core, we are all the same.

I’m truly happy that my children are getting the opportunity to travel early in their lives and I’m glad that they will be able to learn so much. But it’s still very difficult to see them wave goodbye to us as they board the plane.

Yesterday, when Babe and I got home from the airport, the house was empty. The Prodigal Son was still at work and CJ was with my sister-in-law and the other 3 were driving each other crazy in the plane. Babe and I should’ve been excited. In fact with the anticipation of having the house to ourselves, I even commented to The Family Genius before she left that her mother and I can have an alone time together at home and that we can finally walk around the house with our birthday suits. And predictably she said, “Eeeeewwww too much information.” But our empty house didn’t produce the excitement that we anticipated.

Instead of feeling euphoric, we felt like empty nesters. Last night as I tucked CJ to bed and instructed TPS to turn off all the lights, which he didn’t, before he goes to sleep, I felt incomplete. And as I write this post, with CJ already awake and bothering me, I still feel empty and Babe is just lying in bed awake staring at the ceiling. In a couple of days, I will get use to the sound of silence but the empty feeling will prevail until we are complete again.

Wait, I should stop being sappy. I’ll see them in month when the rest of us will join them in the Philippines. But you know what I mean though, right…?

  1. Storm Said,

    your heart is missing them. that is ok. inspite of that, you let them go.

    you are great parents.

    take care of you,

    storm

    Storms last blog post..i am thankful

  1. Marelisa Said,

    Life moves in stages Chris: one day you’ll be looking forward to your children coming over with all of your grandkids (lots and lots of grandkids :-) ).

    Marelisas last blog post..50 Ways to Celebrate Life Every Day

  1. RC Said,

    I can’t even imagine… and I only have the one. I know how empty I would feel without him there, though…

    Enjoy the quiet, but missing them will just make seeing them again even sweeter. (Or so I tell myself when I head to work for the day…)

  1. Becky Said,

    Ben goes with Nat some weekends and while it’s technically nice to have only one child, we ALWAYS miss him. And that’s for a day and a half.

    So yeah, I understand completely.

    Beckys last blog post..Uh, Yeah. Can I Get That With A Side Of Child?

  1. Vered Said,

    “I felt incomplete.”

    I can relate.

    We almost sent the kids off to spend the summer with their grandparents, but then I panicked. I realized that I would just feel… well. EMPTY.

    Vereds last blog post..Apparently, Easy-To-Operate Stuff Was Invented, Because Women Are STUPID (Wordless Wednesday)

  1. I honestly thought I was prepared for Empty Nest. I had a career, I had interests outside of my children, I had done a good job as a mom…empty nest here I come. I was looking forward to it. Freedom! Only, then it happened and the first year is a complete blur. I still had my career, I still had my interests, but something..somebodies…were missing. However, after the first year it was Ya Baby! Now when they come home, I find myself asking the same question my mother does “So, just so I know, when are you leaving?” LOVE to have them, LOVE to see them go. *smile*.

  1. kbreints Said,

    That has got to be so strange to send them so very far away! Enjoy your time though!

  1. Melanie Said,

    I don’t know yet because mine is still just a toddler. But, I can only imagine how quiet your house must be. Hope it gets better for you!

    Melanies last blog post..Friday’s Feast

  1. Ruthie Said,

    Wow! Very brave of you…but such a good thing and a great experience for them. But I’m sure I would feel the same way. So far…my hubby and I haven’t let our little ones even so much as spend one night away from home, which I kind of regret, because it might be harder for them to now.

  1. Tara R. Said,

    When my oldest was still in high school, she had the opportunity to travel to China with her school choir. I was so excited for her, since I have never traveled outside of the US. Now, when in school she’s five hours away… the Empty Nest is not all it’s cracked up to be. Then I think my youngest will be still living with us when he’s 30.

    Tara R.s last blog post..Pity Party

  1. I get it. I only have a toddler starting preschool next week , but I know it’s a stepping stone to the independence you speak of. It’s so bittersweet.

    Sandy (Momisodes)s last blog post..Life Before Momisodes

  1. ilinap Said,

    I’m already fretting about my older son going to kindergarten this fall. I was thinking to myself today that I’m going to keep him at home and ban him from getting a driver’s license. I can’t bear the thought of my boys growing up. Is the sudden emotion because my younger son (my baby!) is turning 3 this weekend or is it hormonal? Who knows. All I know is that the adage is right, time flies, and they grow up so quickly!

  1. Dette Said,

    TOTALLY!

    I am with the kids 24/7. I work from home, so I don’t get the break of going into the office and blah, blah, blah - so I totally get the urge for some “me” time or “date night” every now and then.

    But it never fails, not long after reaching freedom, I find myself thinking about the monsters, or wishing they were there because of something I wanted to show them or share with them, or something they can experience with me.

    *hugs*

    Dettes last blog post..I Think He’s Got It Backwards

  1. Hi Chris,

    Be glad you’ll be joining them in a month. It’s never easy watching kids leave (either for a trip or to live on their own), but they’ll be back and soon your life will be complete again.

    Barbara Swaffords last blog post..Free ‘n Easy Friday Finds

  1. MizFit Said,

    I needed this today.
    Im mired in potty training and like to THINK that my advanced age makes me wise enough NOT to wish these days away/aware that they WILL FLY BY—–I still do.

    off to embrace all that will be my very carnival ride like day.

    Miz.

  1. purpledsky Said,

    If only I can freeze time and be with my baby when she’s like this, perfect and staying with me forever.

    But hey, cheer up! You’re joining them next month and experience, yet again, the never-ending humidity :-D Enjoy our beautiful country!

    purpledskys last blog post..Much ado about a name

  1. I don’t have kids yet, but I can see where you are coming from. It must be such a wonderful experience to see excited, curious and happy children exploring the world.

    You are a lucky man!

    Karl Staib - Your Work Happiness Matterss last blog post..Just Be Cool Like a Little Fanzie

  1. faeryrowan Said,

    I understand how you feel. Kudos to you for trusting your children and being happy for them. I, for one, dread the day when my boys become old enough to go on trips without me, but I know I have to learn to let go and be happy for them. For now, I’ll make the most out of our bonding moments while they’re still practically mama’s little boys.

    faeryrowans last blog post..Search for survivors continues

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