Heartbreaks in Parenting
Parenting is full of heartbreaks especially when you have teenagers.
You do your best to provide your children with the best thing that you can offer with the hope that they will grow up to be secure, kind, and successful adults. However, when they reach a certain age, all you can really do is watch them make their own choices about their future. This is even more difficult when you know that they’re not making logical decisions. But, you cannot make these choices for them. And, the only hope you have is that the consequences of their decisions will teach them more than you can ever would.
But, it is very difficult to just watch and allow you children to learn from their mistakes. You have been where they’re going and naturally you know what’s going to happen. But no matter how much you show them that you do know what’s best for them, they will not fully listen to you. They must listen to their own voice.
So what do you do? You step back, support and be ready to catch them when they fall because you love them so. In the meantime, as you watch them live their own lives and forge their own future, you just have to deal with your heartbreaks the best you could. Afterall, your children’s lives were never yours to begin with. It’s always been theirs and you have always been just a care taker.
Amen to that!
Afterall, your children’s lives were never yours to begin with. It’s always been theirs and you have always been just a care taker.
So true! I think it’s better that parents don’t think that they “own” their children and dictate their every move.
Though I’m not *yet* a parent so…
I so don’t look forward to this day, probably because I know you’re right!
What a poignant post. It’s sad, but true that we can’t protect our children from everything, including themselves. Thanks for stopping by my blog. I didn’t realize that bullying post was live! You got a sneak peek!
Lovely post, Chris. I completely agree with your last point. Our children’s lives are not ours to live, but I think when we love them so completely it can be a difficult thing to accept because we want them to have the benefit of our experience and wisdom.
My son will soon be 4 years old, but he has been headstrong since the day he as born. I’m not looking forward to his teenage years.
Kelly
very true cris, you know im in that situation right now..
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