I was a little uncomfortable asking Isaac this question, but I mustered enough courage to ask him anyway.

“How did you deal with the challenges of your online intimacy?”

Before answering my question he smirked and said, “Oh, you mean “sex”?

“Yeah, that,” I said. I told him that I didn’t use the “s” word because I wanted to keep my blog Rated PG. He just smiled and began to explain.

“I don’t really remember when we started getting intimate online,” he said. “What I can remember is that it started with playful innuendos while we chat online and it moved to phone calls. You see during that time, video conferencing wasn’t how it is now. It was more of a distraction having it than not having it.”

I immediately remarked, “Man, you must have racked up quite a phone bill?”

“You can say that the phone company was pretty happy with us,” he grinned.

Isaac also stated that there were a few free phone internet service during that time and they were pretty good considering that they were in the beta stages.

I commented that it must have been very hard for both of them. He said that at first it was but, they got use to the situation. He said that there were times when he just wanted to hold Camille but couldn’t.

“Those times were specially difficult because sometimes actions do speak louder than words. Being able to hold the person you love can turn a bad day into a good day. When those times happen, you just hope for the day that the time will eventually come when you can actually be in each others arms all day and all night,” he added.

I was surprised by Isaac’s statements because I never thought that he’s the romantic type. But what struck me even more was his next comment.

He said, “The time we spent being intimate online really gave us the chance to really get to know each others needs and wants. Through our words, we were able to make the connection, which made everything more intense and satisfying. When we finally met face to face, it felt like we have been together for a long time since there were no pretentions and inhibitions. Quite interestingly, our passion waned when we were physically together because we forgot to make the connections with our minds. The physical part was so easy that we depended on this too much. But when we reconnected with the foundation of our relationship, then the intensity came back. It’s strange and I can’t explain it. When our minds and emotions are insync the physical intimacy often times become secondary.”

So it is safe to say that true passion and true love do start in the mind before it moves to the physical. We often forget this because it is much easier to focus on the physical. With Isaac and Camille’s online relationship, they were forced by the situation to communicate with their wants and needs through words, which strenghten the foundation of their relationship.

It is true then that my friend’s internet romance does support the argument that your mind and your words are the most effective and the most powerful tool you have when it comes to meaningful intimacy.