On one of my wife’s blog, she discussed how people in general do not fully recover from the pain that they have suffered through with their past relationships or from the feeling of betrayal that they might have gone through in the past with their current partner.

This comment struck me hard. I began examining my old wounds and analyze whether they have manifested somehow in the present. To a certain extent she is right. Some old emotional wounds that I thought were healed do open sometimes in the present even if they are not related to whatever is happening at that moment.

So the question is, when do you fully recover or will you ever recover and heal? Perhaps, I might not fully recover from all my emotional wounds. And perhaps it is not even important if I fully heal. What is important is how I manage and deal with the challenges ahead so that my past wounds will not open and cripple my better judgement. 

I can manage them but I do not think I can be fully healed because being fully healed means you would have forgotten what happened. If you forget what had happened then it might repeat itself. Being aware of your emotional scars will remind you of the pitfalls that you have fallen into and inturn these scars will make you more cognizant of the obstacles that lie ahead.

Of course this not true for everyone. We all have our ways of dealing with our emotional scars. However, one thing is for sure, when the next challenge comes, we all want to be ready so that we can make it through with more strength and courage.